Being a virgin can be a troubling thing. Many feel like it’s written on their forehead. In a way it is. If you’re a virgin, you may likely be nervous and anxious. It is this attitude that makes others think you’re a virgin, or need to get laid.
So how should one deal with being a virgin? I’m glad you asked, because I have your answer!
1. Educational material
There is plenty of educational material out there. The Kama Sutra is very well known and goes over many sexual positions with pictures and explanations. The pornography industry also makes some movies that focus on educating people how to please their lover. So, learn all you can and above all, be open to new things!
2. Sex toys
They can be used by couples, or alone when you want to satisfy your urges.
Also, with today’s technology, they material used can make toys that feel so real, it’s scary!
Just be careful not to get desensitized if you go for something that’s battery operated.
We are sexual beings, so it’s only natural to enjoy pornography. So, take some time and find some porn that you enjoy. There are lots to choose from! Embrace your sexuality, and find some porn that speaks to you. If you give it a chance, you won’t be disappointed.
4. Know your body (and your orgasm)
Understanding your body, your sweet spots, and how everything effects how long, and how powerful your orgasm can be is important. You can’t expect a lover to figure out how to please you, if you don’t even know. So take the time to explore your body, and enjoy your orgasm. For some, multiple orgasms may be awaiting you, if you keep at it.
5. Conquer loneliness, Enjoy your life!
Don’t wait for a lover before you start to enjoy yourself. Many people don’t want to do things because they don’t want to go alone. So, grab a friend, go out, and have a great time! The more you enjoy yourself, the better your outlook on life will be. If you have a positive attitude, then people will naturally be drawn to you!
6. Be a man/woman!
You must strive to be a strong, confident person. This holds true for both men and women. It’s not enough to be caring, and nice, and well mannered. Women typically look for their men to be strong, confident, and having the ability to stand up for themselves and make choices. Men generally look for their women to be soft, graceful, nurturing, but also with the passion and strength to support the strong man she loves. So, come out of your shell, and realize who you were meant to be!
7. Being a challenge, myth or reality?
Many write how important it is to be a challenge. This is correct, but it’s only part of the story. Why is being a challenge important? Because many people are turned off when others throw themselves at you. Now, from time to time, that is a great thing, but if it happens all the time, it’s a turn off. So, don’t lose yourself in becoming a “we.” Relationships are just as much about “you” and “me” as they are about “we.”
It’s healthy, plain and simple. So, enjoy yourself at least a few times a week, if not daily. Here are some of the benefits of regular masturbation: longer life, healthy heart, healthy immune system, less likely to develop breast cancer, youthful appearance, relieves cramps, elevated mood, reduces tension and stress, helps you sleep, calms cravings, reduces depression, improved bladder control, improved prostate health, etc.
9. Understand your situation
Understand why you’re a virgin, and don’t get depressed about it. If you’re saving yourself for marriage, someone special, or for other reasons, then be proud. Yes, sex is an important part of an adult’s life, but that doesn’t mean you can’t do other things in the meantime. If people harass you about being a virgin, just tell them to back off. If this is your choice, and you’re not hurting anyone, who are they to meddle?
10. All things in moderation
Remember, sex is great, but it’s not the end all, and be all of life. Put things into perspective. If all you’re ever worried about is sex, and how to get some, you won’t appear as attractive as you could be. Just be honest with yourself. Yes, you desire to have sex (and lots of it), but you also have other interests. Enjoy everything, and it will make your life more fulfilling!