t sometimes seems like there are those who have all the luck when it comes to dating. They ask someone out and that person almost always says yes. Add to that that these people seem to run into single, available and attractive people everywhere. It’s like they have been blessed with good dating genes or something.
But is that really the case? Or is there a reason for their good luck? And, more importantly, is there a reason why some people almost always seem to get rejected?
There might be more to it then you think.
Attitude
If you are facing rejection on a daily basis you might just want to look at your own attitude towards dating. Chances are you aren’t exactly positive about it – and who can blame you! Facing rejection is never easy and if you experience it enough, it’s no wonder that you’re starting to get tainted.
If you are carrying around this negative attitude however, it is really going to impact your confidence levels and that my friend, is what’s going to bring you further rejection. Yes, that’s right, you could be in fact creating rejection yourself.
If you don’t come across as confident, fewer people are going to find you attractive, especially women.
But now comes for the really fun part. Because of this rejection and negative attitude, you are going to be less likely to approach other women. Makes sense though right? If you are constantly getting rejected, why should you keep trying?
Well, maybe because the more you try, the more chances you’ll find that right one. You know those guys you see who seem to have all the luck? How do you know that you aren’t just catching them on good times? Maybe they are approaching women left, right and centre and you just happen to be seeing the successes? Maybe before that single success you saw they were turned down ten times. But, that didn’t stop them, they just went right on asking.
Dating is largely a numbers game and the more you play, the better you do.
Lifestyle
The next major factor why some men seem to have all the luck is simply because of their lifestyle. What did you do last Friday night?
If you sat at home playing the latest version of Halo, chances are that woman isn’t coming knocking on your door. It can be far too easy to get caught up in our daily routines of getting up, going to work, commuting to the gym, working out, then going home to eat, maybe watch some TV or surf the net and then going to bed. If you don’t shake things up once in a while and get yourself out there, you aren’t giving yourself the opportunity to not be rejected.
The Approach
Finally, the last reason why some guys always seem to get rejected is simply because of the way they approach women. When you are walking up to her, how are you holding yourself? Are you standing up tall? Are your arms resting by your sides or crossed over your body somehow? Are you fidgeting? Do you look right into her eyes? These are all body language aspects that can help you send the right message or if not done properly send the wrong message.
Play around a little with how you approach women and see what works the best for you. Once you develop your own strategy you’ll likely have a lot more luck when doing your approaches.
So next time you want to ask that hot woman across the room out, make sure you keep these points in mind. The guys who get rejected the least are the ones who show confidence, don’t let prior rejections affect their attitude towards future approaches and who use body language that works for them. All of those factors working in combination are what’s going to garner you with more ‘yes’s’ and less ‘no’s’.
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11:46 pm on August 28th, 2011
The term “confidence” is overused and it is underhanded to say any man “lacks confidence”. It is a psychological attack on the male ego and it has been beaten into single mens minds, to seem it is acceptable to be told we “lack confidence”.
The truth is that any loser guy down on his luck can have his confidence restored overnight, if he gets laid by a girl. After that, every girl who sees the guy will get a whiff of his “confidence”. It is in our biology, when men get laid there are very healthy hormone secretions in top of our kidneys that active the “confidence” hormones. The secretions then wear off if he can’t keep up with getting lucky with a girl, and then he goes back to square one of “lacking confidence”.
It’s not confidence so much as the females body he laid has the healthy medicine for him.
It is a huge downfall for men to be constantly told “all men care about is sex” when what we as men are really wanting is to be healthy, to get more medicine from a female body.
The married man who is a couch potato and anti social, eats like a slob, only dated a few women in his life, and is dumb as a rock, he is oddly conceited about how manly he is. The married guy has “confidence” only because he probably gets somewhat regular sex from his wife.
But the young single stud who works out, tries being social, tries dating, gets toughened by rejection, gets back on his feet and keeps trying, is healthy and active, he often “lacks confidence”. The confidence comes and goes with his dry spells between dates or girlfriends, lovers, etc. Oddly, the single man just does not have the confidence unless he has somewhat regular sexual interaction and contact.
American society has a really lame and dysfunctional way of punishing men that are single and looking for love.