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Comment on Why Asian Women Don’t Date Asian Men by JLR

JLR — Fri, 11 May 2012 03:04:16 +0000

The main complaint I got when dating Asian women was they don’t date Asian guys because they seem to put work first and the women last (or close to it). I was always told unlike Asian men I had a good balance between work and social life.

Comment on 10 Reasons Why You’re Getting Rejected by Ali

Ali — Thu, 10 May 2012 17:45:59 +0000

Girls have loads of pressures put on them! If we do not look a certain way then boys cast us as ugly bugly turds. But if you’re a guy then you can be a joker. I don’t blame men for this, but I think whoever wrote this should understand.
Plus not every girl wants her man to be strong and masculine. That’s just a steriotype.
Also, I think the guy who wrote all the stuff about about suicide should be given a hug-pronto.

Comment on 10 Reasons Why You’re Getting Rejected by Lilly

Lilly — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 20:51:03 +0000

Larry, women aren’t to blame for social constructs. Social constructs exist because BOTH genders uphold them. I agree that masculinity is oppressive just as feminity is but it’s completely illogical to blame WOMEN for the oppression of masculinity.

Comment on Why Asian Women Don’t Date Asian Men by Don

Don — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 00:47:34 +0000

@ASIANGIRL Your comment states that you are “westernized” but insist that Asian men must not shuns his culture. Are you GENERALIZING that most Asian men in US/CA shuns his culture? I guess I too generalizing when I say most Asian men who have greater interest in Asian women are “culturally aware”. There’re a lot of attribute that contribution into finding a great guy. With that said; the way you wrote your post makes it clear you “prefer” Caucasian. Simply speaking; you might have dated some Asian men in the past but choose not to in foreseeable future.

Comment on Why Asian Women Don’t Date Asian Men by AsianGirl

AsianGirl — Tue, 20 Sep 2011 13:21:46 +0000

I am a westernized Asian female that has dated various races. While I am more attracted to the physical qualities of a Caucasian man, I also appreciate the attributes of other races, and at the end of the day, there has to be substance in a relationship. The problem I have with dating an Asian man is that they seldom initiate any interest… I am tri-lingual and still retain remnants of my Asian culture. Given the choice of dating an Asian man who shuns his own culture or a non-Asian, I’d prefer a non-Asian. Ideally, I’d like someone similar to myself who is culturally aware of his heritage and at least bilingual. In the past, I have dated Asian Canadian, a FOB Asian, black, white, indian, middle-eastern, european, etc… My last relationship was with a Caucasian that was culturally aware of Asian cultures and spoke mandarin.
I think if Asian men made more of an effort in how they present themselves and took some initiative, more women would date them. Personally speaking, most Asian men tend to not be interested in me as they think I am too ‘westernized’ for their tastes, whatever that means.

Comment on 10 Reasons Why You’re Getting Rejected by richard

richard — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 11:39:53 +0000

Marshall McLuhan once said “the media is the message” in other words this generation of women have been influenced to a huge degree by what they have seen in the print/video medium—if you don’t “fit” a certain sterotype–i.e tall, good looking, successful than they won’t give you the time of day!!!! Now we have stupid reality shows like the “bachelor” that send a “subliminal” message to young girls/women that if a guy isn’t 6’2″/athletic/”drop dead gorgeous” doesn’t earn $100k + than he isn’t worth bothering with!!!

Comment on Why Some People Almost Always Get Rejected by James

James — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 23:46:29 +0000

The term “confidence” is overused and it is underhanded to say any man “lacks confidence”. It is a psychological attack on the male ego and it has been beaten into single mens minds, to seem it is acceptable to be told we “lack confidence”.

The truth is that any loser guy down on his luck can have his confidence restored overnight, if he gets laid by a girl. After that, every girl who sees the guy will get a whiff of his “confidence”. It is in our biology, when men get laid there are very healthy hormone secretions in top of our kidneys that active the “confidence” hormones. The secretions then wear off if he can’t keep up with getting lucky with a girl, and then he goes back to square one of “lacking confidence”.

It’s not confidence so much as the females body he laid has the healthy medicine for him.

It is a huge downfall for men to be constantly told “all men care about is sex” when what we as men are really wanting is to be healthy, to get more medicine from a female body.

The married man who is a couch potato and anti social, eats like a slob, only dated a few women in his life, and is dumb as a rock, he is oddly conceited about how manly he is. The married guy has “confidence” only because he probably gets somewhat regular sex from his wife.

But the young single stud who works out, tries being social, tries dating, gets toughened by rejection, gets back on his feet and keeps trying, is healthy and active, he often “lacks confidence”. The confidence comes and goes with his dry spells between dates or girlfriends, lovers, etc. Oddly, the single man just does not have the confidence unless he has somewhat regular sexual interaction and contact.

American society has a really lame and dysfunctional way of punishing men that are single and looking for love.

Comment on Why Asian Women Don’t Date Asian Men by Masa

Masa — Sat, 23 Jul 2011 19:42:36 +0000

This is Masa.

What I feel contradiction about the view of female toward men is that like this article says women don’t like men complain or their negativity.

Of course I do understand that however just think of how many times women complain about their daily life. it’s too much. So women don’t have any right to say men can’t complain or anything like that. So I am understanding this article as men shouldn’t complain things seriously. If they want to complain things, it will be better if they do with some sense of humor. Regardless of gender, we are human thus it’s quite normal to talk about daily comlaint. Alos complaing about daily like could prosper one’s life and relationship with friends or other people too. So my opinion is tht it is ok to complain however the way you complain is the key. Like all the elements written on the article, men should complain with sense of humor and not disrespecting others. Then women will also understand men and be attracted by men.

Comment on OKCupid Review by Crazy Pete

Crazy Pete — Thu, 21 Jul 2011 08:09:13 +0000

Yes it is Stephen, look at OK Cupid’s own stats, the VAST majority of their users are < 35. Sure there are people our age on the site, but we are the minority and OK Cupid doesn't seem to be geared towards us. For example there is no way to filter one someone ELSE's age preferences. No matter what search criteria you enter, the majority of people returned will have an age range <= 35. (It is funny when you ask OK cupid to only show you women who are 45, and then you get a bunch of profiles that are interested in guys 25-45. There is, (AFAICT), no way to get OK Cupid to show only people who are interested in your age range. In effect OK Cupid is encouraging guys our age to message girls who don't want us. (OK Cupid refuses to do anything but return profiles 99% of which clearly state they want nothing to do with anyone my age.) I don't mind that someone wants someone other than me. But it is very easy to make a mistake and message someone who doesn't want to talk to you. Wading through 98 profiles to find 1 who will accept a 48 year old makes it easy to misread someone's preference and message them despite your best intentions. Ladies, i am very sorry if you have been the victim of this, but OK Cupid tries to push us old creeps into your face!

Best Wishes,

Peter

Comment on Why Asian Women Don’t Date Asian Men by James

James — Wed, 22 Jun 2011 06:11:31 +0000

There’s a lot to things to consider about Asian men. Most of us are shy. Yes we want long relationship by listening to our parent when they say American women don’t make good wife. Most will care n listen. Stereotype is a major reason why we are shy. We feel like we are no good enough. I have many Asian men who are single n will be for a while. If u want a male Asian u gotta make him feel desirable n others. Show him that you are a long time relation type of girl. If you do anything to hurt his man hood n others then most Likely he think of leaving you. Stereotype had made things harder. I see slots lot if pretty girls but won’t approach first. I can care less if I loose the change. It’s better than getting my feeling hurt. Everybody talk to truth about Asian men but never feel what they feel. Asian amercian are shy about we feel unwanted by stereotype.